My Boss Wants to Sleep on My Couch Every Week

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A Weekly Work Sleepover?

Oh my god, what? When your question arrived in my inbox, I immediately sent it to my editor and we agreed that it had to make it into this week’s Work Friend column.

But where do I begin? There’s so much wrong here.

There’s the “informing” you that this is something that is going to happen, and the “demanding” of a key.

The expectation that you go along with all this.

The assumption that the two of you are best friends.

It “feels” like a gross abuse of power? It IS a gross abuse of power! But it doesn’t have to be an invasion of privacy. You can say “absolutely not.” Or, at the very least, “no.”

“I don’t know how to tell her this in a way that won’t feel like a rejection of the way she views our relationship,” you write.